Written for Writing 101: Don’t Stop the Rockin’.
I had planned to use this prompt to talk about the writing process however, in light of recent events, I have decided write about my father-in-law and our grieving instead. I’m hoping that this post will be cathartic and allow me to let out some more of my grief.
I realize that some people cannot deal with death and for this reason I am putting the main post behind a cut. Consider this a trigger warning if you are triggered by death or talk of the grieving process.
My SO has been crying on and off over the last few days. He will be able to have a conversation but the moment he is left alone the tears will come. I know that he is trying to stay strong for his sisters’ sakes and for that I am very proud of him. But that doesn’t stop me from wishing he would let out all of his grief.
I suppose my SO and I are similar in that respect. He has been staying strong to support his family and I have been staying strong to support him.
I have also been cleaning. A lot. I must have cleaned each room at least twice a day since we heard the news. I’ve washed each load of laundry twice and rewashed each load of dishes as well.
When I’ve run out of things to clean, I’ve been cooking. We had the family over today to finalize funeral plans and I made sure that everyone ate something. I made snacks and full meals to feed everyone. I also made sure everyone had some type of drink whether it was tea, hot chocolate or pop.
I needed to make sure that everyone else was coping with their grief and taken care of. I needed to work through my grief in a physical manner rather than a purely emotional manner.
While we are still grieving the loss of my father-in-law and will be for awhile, I know that we are all ready to get back into the real world. We still miss him terribly and are shocked at his passing but we also know that he wouldn’t want us to put our lives on hold for him.
My father-in-law wasn’t a fan of taking years to do things. He wanted things to be done as quickly as possible. We have tried to keep to these wishes in terms of planning his funeral and memorial to occur on the same day as the flight arrives. We are also planning a memorial for his friends here in Alberta for the week after his funeral in the East Coast.
I think I’m safe to say that my father-in-law would be happy with how his family is handling his death. He would be proud of the family he raised.